Patriarchal conditioning and gender stereotypes as well as preconceived notions about gender roles over the last 100 odd decades have led to predefined spaces that men and women occupy. But while women are so used to taking care of emotional needs and men are the protectors and providers. How do men deal with their better halves’ PMS?
We asked 5 guys exactly what they do to pamper their lady loves and make them comfortable during those days of the month. And here’s what we found out.
‘Well, due to a prior experience I knew that period, in general, are rough and that PMS is just the tip of the iceberg of what actually happens. But my partner, she just takes it in her stride. More often than not, her days go off fairly normally or so they appear. But every once in a while she would turn into this sobs-at-everything-mess which at first really alarmed but once I got her to talk about it I knew exactly what I had to do to be helpful the next time something like this happened. The thing I learned? She likes to talk when this happens, and talk about everything. And when I say everything I mean everything, from the cute pup she saw to global warming to the latest eyebrow trend, she just wants to talk. And once I figured that I was golden because after that but she would sleep heavily and then the next day she’ll be this bright cheery person which is pretty awesome if you ask me. So guys, if you’re reading this, listen to her talk, contribute from time to time, but just really listen, it’s amazing what it can do for a person.’-Rohan
‘So our code is “Houston, We Don’t Have a Problem”, and whenever this text comes I just know that I have to go home with a large offering of chocolate, cakes, chips and so on. It’s just one of those things. Some months I’ll even get some flowers just to surprise her. And because her emotions are pretty much all over the place around that time her reaction to the flowers is always priceless. Treat her during her period and you’re golden, I feel that our bond is stronger because of these gestures, she feels appreciated which in turn always makes me feel good.’ –Arjun
‘I go old school, I remember my sister always asking for a hot water bottle and pretty much staying in bed around those days. So when I know that my partner is on her period, the one thing that I always make sure of is keeping the hot water bottle handy and the ginger tea stocked up because she has repeatedly told me that that’s the only thing that helps her cramps. Hugs are pretty great too and that’s basically how I help out.’ –Chirag
‘I keep a lavender essential oil handy, one of my friends had once told me that lavender oil is like magic when one can’t sleep. And my partner has a tough time sleeping during those days because of the cramps. And extra pillows when I’m away because cocooning helps too!’ –Dhruv
‘My partner loves to have me read to her, she says it helps her calm down when she focuses on my voice. So every month without fail I get new options for the books that she either wants to read or poems she likes and we do this. Cuddling while binge-watching a favorite series helps too. And feeding her, because those are the four days where she really let’s go of her diet so we pretty much sample every cuisine you can think of. I think it’s the simple things that really help, as long as you know what they want and they know you’re around to listen and be with them, things work out.’ –Kartik
FAQ’s
What kind of treat gestures work during period discomfort?
Small surprise treats can make a big difference during heavy or emotionally difficult days. One partner would bring chocolates, cakes, chips or even flowers when he sensed mood shifts. These gestures helped his partner feel appreciated, strengthened their bond and made her feel cared for in an otherwise challenging time.
Why is providing a hot water bottle helpful during cramps?
Cramps are a common period symptom and heat helps relax tense muscles. In the article, a man always had a hot water bottle ready along with ginger tea because his partner said it eased her discomfort. This kind of practical support—anticipating a need rather than reacting—can create real relief and show attentiveness.
How can improving sleep support a partner during her period?
Sleep can be disrupted by cramps, discomfort or hormonal shifts. One person mentioned keeping extra pillows and lavender essential oil to help his partner rest better. Creating a calm environment—dim lighting, soft pillows, minimal noise—helps the body recover and reduces irritability that might accompany tiredness.
In what ways can shared activities bring comfort during period days?
Engaging in soothing activities together—like reading aloud, watching a light-hearted series, or simply cuddling—helps shift focus away from discomfort and builds intimacy. According to the article, one partner picked new books monthly and took time to read to his partner because her voice would help calm her mind during the cycle.
How important is communication during menstruation in a relationship?
Open and honest communication ensures you understand what your partner needs. The men in the article stressed asking gently: “What would help you right now?” rather than assuming. This creates an environment where she feels safe to express mood changes, physical pain or simply needing time alone—rather than feeling judged or ignored.
What role does helping with daily tasks play during period support?
Physical discomfort or emotional stress during periods can make everyday chores feel harder. Stepping in to help with tasks—cooking, cleaning, arranging comfort items—can relieve some of the pressure and show that you recognise her extra burden. According to the article, such proactive support fosters trust and comfort.
How can partners anticipate needs rather than wait for requests?
Anticipating needs means observing patterns—if your partner always uses a hot water bottle or asks for specific snacks, having those ready shows attentiveness. The article shares examples of men who pre-emptively brought comfort items before being asked. This kind of thoughtful preparation communicates empathy and care.
Why is empathy better than trying to ‘fix’ the situation?
Periods involve physical, emotional and hormonal changes. While wanting to ‘fix’ symptoms is natural, what often helps most is empathy—being present, offering comfort and allowing feelings without judgement. The article emphasises that sometimes the simplest action—listening or hugging—is more effective than offering solutions.
What long–term benefits come from supportive behaviour during periods?
Consistent support during a partner’s period builds trust and strengthens the relationship. The men quoted in the article noted that gestures during those days made their partner feel appreciated, understood and less isolated. Over time this kind of support helps both partners communicate better, reduce misunderstandings and view menstruation as a shared experience rather than a burden.